Failing is Good For You
Last Friday I chaperoned my 10-year old’s cross country skiing field trip. It had been years since I’d been.
On the morning drive there, I found his eyes in the rearview mirror. “I feel so nervous about skiing!”, I shared.
“Why are you scared, mama?”, he asked curiously.
Hmmmm… why am I so scared? I asked myself.
It came immediately. “I’m scared I’m going to fall a lot.”
Without skipping a beat: “Well… that’s easy, mama! You just get back up again!”
You just get back up again.
We went and had the most amazing time.
There were huge plump clouds all shades of gray.
Brilliant blue sky peaking through.
Glittery snow all around.
I did fall. He fell. We laughed and sweated and did our best.
Here’s the thing:Falling down isn’t the problem. It’s what we make it mean.
I made it mean that people would laugh at me (they didn’t). And that I would feel embarrassed.
Think about a baby learning to walk. Babies fall and bump and tumble dozens of times a day. And they make it mean nothing – they get right back up again.
And it’s the getting back up that builds strength and resilience. The falling down actually helps them walk!
What if WE remembered that falling down was NORMAL and part of the process?
Not something to avoid, but to welcome as a sign of learning and growing?
So here’s to failing ON PURPOSE and with pride.
It won’t feel comfortable and that’s ok.
You’ll learn about yourself along the way.
You’ll learn how to do it better next time.
You’ll build confidence and resilience.
Neale Donald Walsch said, “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
Cheers to that.